One is right brained, left brained, or mixed brain. Right dominated brain individuals are artists or musicians. They try to create using their five senses. Left dominated brain individuals are scientist or mathematicians. They try to see patterns in art that makes sense to them. Mixed brain doesn’t really exist except in theory that the brain is equal in both art and science; it’s along the lines of humans using the full potential of their brain.
The reason this is important is it’s a failsafe to know how our brains interpret influences from our surroundings, other people, and internal reasoning. Right-brain people can be analytical and left-brain people can be creative as a learned process. But, the default response to stimuli will be determined by being right or left brain. How one interprets emotion is geared by the brain process.
It is helpful to know which dominate side of the brain that you internalize as it affects your behaviors, attitudes, beliefs, and emotions. Employers use checklist of emotional words for potential employees to self-identify as a means of determing whether they are right or left brained and overall how they would fit in with the company’s business goals.
You are unique. Even identical children have their own independent fingerprints. God created us; mankind, in his image. God gave us rights to love and acceptance, respect, forgiveness, and approval.
You are capable. A newborn comes into the world, and its whole life is changed. The source of nourishment, diapering needs, warmth or coolness of body. It makes it mind up if it can trust it’s caretakers to fulfill the basics of needs. Love is a learned behavior.
You survived! And not only did you survive you flourished. You are a capable, independent person of attributes. You possess a gamut of emotions from happiness to sadness, a disappointment to acceptance, love to despise. You seek approval from others, from GOD, and from yourself at the most basic level of needs.
You are respected. At some point in life, you have earned respect from yourself and others. Respect is a sense of well-being in your world. Respect is innate that God created you to be perfected through Christ and it is good.
Your self-image is positive or negative, rarely neutral. A positive outlook tells itself that it is liked, loved, respected, appreciated, forgiven. An adverse or negative outlook tells itself that it is unlovable, disrespected, demoralized, or not worthy of forgiveness. A healthy person will fluctuate in our self-image based upon external factors that we internalize as to be a positive or a negative condition. How we view ourselves influences our success or failures as individuals.
Consistency, persistence, and consequences are key factors in parenting skills.
Consistency is doing the same task repeatedly the same way with predictable outcomes. For example Task- morning chores; making the bed, putting away night clothes in laundry basket, washing up and eat breakfast. Consistency says that these three things must occur everyday. The reward is knowing that your bedroom looks nice, your laundry will get done, and you will eat a good meal. The consequences of not doing them will be a messy room and a delay in getting your laundry done, you will still get to eat breakfast.
Persistence is doing the same task repeatedly until the task becomes a routine. For example: Knowing that a Task- morning chores; making the bed, putting away night clothes in laundry basket, washing up and eat breakfast will occur takes pressure off a person mentally. Persistence says that with practice perfection will come and the reward will be forthcoming as intrinsic such as knowing you accomplished your task or externally like praise for doing such a good job.
Consequences are a result or effect of an action or condition. Consequences are emotionless but can appeal to our emotional condition. For example Task- morning chores; making the bed, putting away night clothes in laundry basket, washing up and eat breakfast. The consequence should follow the task at hand. Making the bed proactive is external praise and internal satisfaction. Putting away night clothes proactive is external in getting laundry done and internal of having more choices of clean clothes to choose from. Eating breakfast proactive is having our basic need met and internal of satiety.
The consequence is often associated with discipline for not performing or not following through on an idea or task. These are usually negative reinforcers. For example Task- morning chores; making the bed, putting away night clothes in laundry basket, washing up and eat breakfast. The possible outcome is being verbally reminded of the task or being verbally chastised or losing a privilege for a certain amount of time and having to still do the task stated. The follow up is just as important as the assigned task. Being persistent and consistent with followup sets a precedent for what will happen next. For external positive reinforcers for performing or following through on the tasks, you could have extra time to continue a privilege and/or receive verbal praises for doing what was expected. Internal reinforcers include pride in accomplishing a task.
1970, the house was old and withered with metal can ring covering the knotted pine boards, and the rain would beat down in an angry cadence upon the rusted tin roof. An outhouse long unused sat off to the side a haven for snakes, spiders and other wildlife that ventured within. The mountain protected and cursed the back side of the house with land mud slides every decade or so that passed it by. Cedar trees were centurions guarding the entrance and leading a meandering path always downward to the churning water. The front of the house had a three-foot stoop that one climbed upon a massive log to enter and praying that the jostling river would stay its banks yet again.
The night was so dark that unaided by the moon, one couldn’t see to the end of one’s nose, but looking straight up one saw a cacophony of stars and universes never beginning and without end- truly spectacular.
The tired big house held five rooms with unpainted sheetrock walls and ceilings and coal oiled coated floor timbers; my bare feet soles were always black. A chamber pot sat in every bedroom and was unceremoniously dumped out of doors. An old piano that held its tune wafted music that echoed in the night air. Three small bodies to a cotton tick bed, weighted with quilts to ward from the mountain nights chill. Aunts and Uncles would gather with steel guitar, acoustic guitar, a tambourine and voices signing the children into slumber.
Sometime in the night, the rain stops its drumming to a gentle pattering on the roof reigns in that morning has come. The sun comes up, the bears and night cats take to their dens… it is a glorious new day. The meat and smokehouse beckoned paw-paw to bring in the slaughtered pig bacon while maw-maw makes the biscuits and fries the gathered brown eggs, milk, strong black coffee, and juice complete the meal. The older female children draw from the nearby well water and wash up the dishes while the women clean the kitchen. The boys and youngens are sent out to play. All in all its, not a bad start to my day.
I started a new career path today, branching off my teaching career. It will be an interesting job helping children 5-18 years old learn new coping skills for behavior management and consequently teaching their parent(s) how to recognize and respond appropriately to triggers. I will be doing a lot of homework until I have a clearer understanding of negative behavior causes and ways to implement positive changes.
Galveston Bay, Texas waving bye-bye to an awesome tourist town. Alabama, Oklahoma, and Texan all come together as my Sister, Mom, and I spent three glorious days walking surf side, going on a historical tour, and maxing out on the fun at Buster’s Old Tyme Photo Studio. The studio is a must-do for any tourist. You get to pick genres of time periods then dress up in that era. We chose the Victorian era and the Pirate era. Courtney was our photographer and guide highlighting the spirit of the time with teacups, books, fans, flowers, and hoop skirts the Ladies of Leisure emerge on a cool Victorian day enjoying high tea. Then hang onto your cap matie as the pirates try to steal the valuable treasure from the scallawag first shipmate. Or in real 1920’s regalia with Tommy guns and stolen loot or dancing the night away, you’ll be a classy dame. Don’t miss the horse/buggy ride and ice cream parlor around the corner.
Note: shellfish allergy sufferers Beeno’s Fish restaurant does not separate their oils. They cooked my fish in with someone else’s shellfish and I was seeking emergency medical care not a fun cavetto my vacation. At any seafood restaurant ask the cook before placing your order how the food is prepared so you have a choice as of where to eat. The food was fresh and good at Beeno’s and is not a tourist trap; lots of locals eat there and the staff is friendly, my companions and I enjoyed themselves until my allergy enacted.